I Would Rather be Bullied

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  1. Bullying in your example is so subjective. Even calling it bullying is subjective. You lumped together bullying and criticism in a way I’ve never seen. If I could help you discern the difference I would say that criticism isn’t unsolicited or unexpected. Criticism is meant to building you up through corrective action or information. Bullying is just destructive criticism meant to make you feel like less of a person. Those are two very different things but I guess it really falls on how you choose to interpret.

    • Marcy says:

      Criticism is often unsolicited or unexpected. Agreed that if it is done with the right intentions, in a respectful way and assists the person in making corrective action then it wouldn’t fall under my definition of bullying. Criticism with destructive motives serves no purpose other than to bring another down. I would say that kind of criticism is bullying. I work with some physicians that criticize in such a way that I feel bullied and others who criticize in a purposeful way which actually makes me a better nurse. Definitely a complex topic.

    • Jo says:

      Without a doubt it is a complex topic. And to an extent where I am now, I agree. I use a very large definition in bullying in this post for a couple specific reasons. The first of which is to bring awareness that when I was in that position and that age ANY criticism I considered bullying. I felt that way up until my first year of College.. In fact you were one of the people that helped snap me out of that absurdly large definition. 🙂 As of now, and as a stronger person, I do not. I have enough self-esteem and self-confidence to realize that not everything is an attack at my core. I think it is important to point out that some people who are sensitive to bullying WILL consider it that way. I also use this very large definition of the word as hyperbole. I wanted to prove and exemplify that the person who controls that definition is the one RECEIVING the criticism, not the one giving it. Most importantly, even if the criticism is said with the person not present it is even more true, because it will get back to them.

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